Being in the Present Moment






Nowadays, the value of being in the present moment is frequently emphasised. 
We are frequently told that the "now" is all that is real and that if we are not in this moment, we are not truly alive.
I completely understand why this is the case. 
I frequently catch myself being sidetracked by thoughts of the future. 
Or, I frequently waste time mentally replaying the events of the past.
Being present allows us to live life to the fullest extent possible, which is a positive thing. 
But may there be a dark side to this decree? 

It has restrictions and might be misunderstood, just like any law or proclamation.
Going in circles with our thoughts, or discursive thinking, will not help us. 
We frequently jump from one thought to another randomly; the chain of associations may impede us from moving forward.

Self-critical thoughts are another typical way that we veer off course from the present. 
We can be motivated by deep-seated convictions that we're not talented, intelligent, or handsome enough. 
We might hear ourselves asking, "What's wrong with me?" 

Alternatively, you can say, "That remark was stupid," "When will I ever find a healthy relationship?"

Simple directions to just notice our thoughts can be found in mindfulness and meditation techniques. 
Using the technique of "mental noting," such as whispering to ourselves, "thinking, thinking," might help us bring our focus back to the present moment and away from negative thoughts.


Rather than being plagued by self-critical thoughts, we might labor under a pall of shame — a sense of feeling defective or unworthy. Unhealed shame keeps us lost in a haze, preventing us from being present with people and life.

To give our emotions a chance to settle, we occasionally need to give them some space. 
We gain from thinking about our deeper, truer feelings rather than hurling a furious or accusatory statement and believing we are living in the moment. 
Underneath our first rage, there could be sadness, fear, or embarrassment. 
Can we allow our deeper emotions to surface by allowing ourselves to be in the present? 
Our ability to recognise and express our true emotions helps us build closer bonds with ourselves and others.


People who are spiritually oriented frequently undervalue the value of being present with feelings as they arise. 
If we believe that being present involves treating emotions as diversion, then we're not being present.

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