MIND READING: THINKING ERROR/THINKING DISTORTION

 



People with anxiety and low self-esteem are susceptible to getting caught in an endless loop of negative thinking. It is important to take stock of your thoughts because the cycle they spur can end up becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks that people don’t like him or she might start to have physical symptoms such as sweating at the very idea of being immersed in a social situation. As a result, the individual avoids parties and other gatherings, which makes him or her feel left out and eventually causes more negative thoughts such as “something must be wrong with me.” The cycle then continues, leaving the person feeling depressed or anxious. If the initial thought is dealt with appropriately, the entire cycle of negativity that follows it can be avoided.

The diagram below shows how the thinking error cycle could get triggered after someone is invited to a party, when the day of the party arrives:

Cognitive Distortions cbt

 

Examples Of Thinking Errors and How CBT Can Help

 

Cognitive behavioural therapy can help you recognise when you are thinking distorted thoughts. It teaches you how to question these thoughts so they are not allowed to trigger a cycle of negativity, and it helps you replace those thoughts with more balanced ways of thinking.

These thinking errors can be strong habits that you engage in subconsciously, and a cognitive behavioural therapist can help you address specific issues and give you the tools needed to change your thoughts for the better.

Here are some examples of common thinking errors and how CBT questioning can help counteract them:

“All or Nothing” Thinking

 

You are constantly thinking of things in extreme terms, such as “always” and “never”. If you do something in a way that is less than perfect, you automatically conclude that you are a failure.

Examples

If you get 85 per cent correct on a test, you think you are a complete failure because you missed 15 per cent.

If you don’t look like a model, you decide you are really ugly.

You’re passed up for a promotion at work, so you think that means the company is planning to make you redundant.

Solutions

Try to find the “in between”. Remind yourself that there is usually a broad spectrum of outcomes between absolute perfection and complete disaster. Very few situations are truly all-or-nothing.

If you are thinking of something in terms of “never” or “always”, can you think of an exception? If so, that means it’s not truly “never” or “always.”

Ask yourself:

  • Is it really that bad or am I being extreme?
  • What other ways are there of looking at this situation?

 

Mental Filter

 

This occurs when you focus on the negative aspects of a situation and disregard the positives. You might be presented with a number of facts supporting a positive outcome, but you dwell only on the negative parts, even if there aren’t very many, and inflate their importance.

Example

Your presentation was well received by your superiors at work, but you noticed a typo in one of the slides. Instead of enjoying the compliments your boss gave you, you’re only thinking about the typo and expecting to get terminated soon for paying poor attention to detail.

Solutions

Focus on the concrete facts. In the example above, your boss said you did a great job. That’s a concrete fact. Don’t waste time thinking about the unknowns; the possibility of you getting sacked is an unknown.

Try to rewrite the problem or situation as though you were telling it to a sensitive child. Only include the positive parts of the story. Then read it when you’re feeling overly anxious.

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